What ideas do you have for making the time extra special? Don’t fall for the lie that “he’s the man; he’ll figure it out” He won’t figure it out because he doesn’t live in your brain. I work at a Lifeway Store and they carry some great books and marriage programs and even books on waiting, I have read “The Bride Wore White” by Dannah Greens and it helps for those that are still virgin’s and even those that aren’t. It’s about connecting in all areas – mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Thank you for sharing the post, i appreciate you! I am a 25-year old man. And because guests will most likely assume that they are required to dress more formal than a daytime wedding, if this is NOT your vision and you’re going for a more laid-back atmosphere, clarify that on the invite and your wedding website. (And though it is largely uncomfortable and thought to be “natural,” sex is a very complex interaction between the man and woman. Sometimes I’ll receive a heartbreaking email from a reader, and the first thing I want to find out is if they have a mentor, someone to talk to and walk with through life’s situations. Have fun, enjoy one another and this wonderful gift. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, Chris! With all the embarrassments and little issues, it was the start of their married life, and they wouldn’t trade the experience for anything. A little preparation before the wedding will go a long way. Anyhow thanks for the advise and not leaving us born agains out 🙂. We will have to make sure that the venue she chooses allows noise late at night because she really wants to have a nice DJ and dance party at the end. Keep them coming. my ‘shame-shame’. I agree with you, Lisa. Thank you for these tips; we’ll keep in mind to check the venue noise ordinance and of course, we wouldn’t forget to book a guestroom for respective guests just in case they had so much to drink. In the card attached to one gift, our newlywed friends wrote, “relax and enjoy the process. Not trying to gross you out..but we can be mixed up and loopy about the wedding night! Making love can be awkward, messy and hilarious! Enjoy the simplicity of a touch here and there. My youngest sister just got engaged and we want to help her organize the wedding. Begin to ask God to do a deep work in you now, to change you and transform you. And of course just taking a shower will refresh you both. 6 Things Brides Always Forget To Put In The Welcome Bags--But Guests Love Them! I am so sorry! My niece is getting married, so I am looking for ideas on how to help her out and make sure it is the best day of her life. I want all wives to experience the best of it. So you’ll need to discuss with your husband-to-be and be on the same page. Be gentle, be careful, but keep up the “exercise.” Your body will get used to it, and sex will no longer hurt.”, Be gentle, be careful, but keep up the “exercise.”. And I love your tips! For answers to our more practical, physiological questions, we read The Gift of Sex, by Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner, when we got back from our honeymoon. You don’t have to be stressed about your wedding night. Otherwise Google her posts on boundaries in the bedroom. Your email address will not be published. Takes patience and understanding and reassurance from the groom. I know how it feels and infact wrote a follow-up post titled “It’s possible to wait till your wedding night to have sex for the first time” which was an encouragement to all the waiting singles. What is permissible in the Christian marriage bed? Well, here’s a piece of truth you want to chew on; sex within marriage is entirely different from sex outside of wedlock. Whether you decide to follow that method or opt for birth control, the information in that book about fertility and how a woman’s body works is invaluable for both husband and wife. Let us know in the comments below! Hi! First of all, allow me to be counter-cultural for a moment: You don’t have to have sex on your wedding night. How to prepare for the wedding night It’s wise to be aware of the need to discuss expectations about your honeymoon, and specifically sex, with your fiancé, and to wonder about the timing and content of those conversations prior to the wedding. We won a free wedding night hotel stay at a bridal show and were really excited about it because we had originally planned to sleep at home that night. I just remembered when my maiden of honor ( Ngina Otiende) was helping me out of my snuggly gown as the men exchanged “last words” , I actually felt clueless and scared. Otherwise find another godly married woman to talk to) . This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. the shameful be considered desirable – all in the name of sex ! I just love marriage, and love being a wife. You don’t want to ignore it or just try to work on your own if your sexual life with each other is not healthy.). And your fiancé will need even less. Hi Ngina! Laugh it off and get along. There are hundreds of nights to come. And when the honeymoon’s over, you’ll have a lifetime together to learn about sex and get good at having it. And what a wonderful post you’ve written! God bless and thank you for sharing your journey, I agree about getting a mentor and reading some good manuals. Plus I was recovering from chicken pox, so my tiredness was on the double. Just relax! Don't feel like you're in this wedding planning process alone. Shower her with affection, and show her that you are interested in making her feel special and not just in the “main event.”. Ngina, great post here. I thought sex was suppose to be perfect and magical especially as a beginner. 11 Comments Amber September 25, 2019. Please list the dress code on the invite and on your wedding website for guests so they are comfortable and dressed correctly for your style of wedding. It will help you not catch a urinary tract infection. I learned (and am learning) the hard way to accept that my life and marriage is made by God- not Hollywood. You can get through this together. Sex in Marriage. Real intimacy is marriage is not just about sex. If I were you, I would not plan to fly out on a honeymoon that very night. So, you’ll need to factor in these hard end times and work backwards from them when making your timeline for your evening wedding and reception. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. One quick question I got married yesterday well when it came night time we where watching a series on tv well he fell asleep. great post for me as a bride to be (all by faith:-) ) I am not trying to be a wet blanket because there’s nothing wrong with planning to wow each other. Talk this over with your bride-to-be. We can overcome hindrances and live healthily. Yes, it will be cleaned and pressed before going into the box, but you still don’t want to throw it onto a chair or in a corner, where it can possibly tear or lose any beading or embellishments. Many airlines will even send you a text message of any changes, so try to set that up ahead of time. The resources help but the real learning and growth happens “on the job”. And about three years ago, I shared of our adventure in a blog post to encourage the bride-to-be, and hopefully lessen her learning […], […] night. One of my girlfriends offered to help out. si I have laughed, felt shy but most importantly I have learned a But men – especially young Christian ones, unfortunately – can be ignorant. 🙂 I am glad you enjoyed the read. These awkward moments are “naked and unashamed” in motion; you are learning to be vulnerable with each other. I would not recommend putting it off till after the honeymoon, nor, I suspect, would your fiancé like that idea! And I also talk to ladies who haven;t been able to consummate their marriage for quite a while because of pain and other factors. She will need to relax and let the stress of the day melt away. Learn how your comment data is processed. Wedding attire is important! Ads provided by Mediavine. Super encouraging, thank you for sharing your journey, love you and appreciate you! If you both don’t have the stress of “We must have sex!” on your mind, you are much more likely to relax enough to have sex. activities are part of your plans, but it’s really easy to get it smudged places – like even a shoulder or something – that you later put your mouth on and…UGH. The running around, the planning, the actual wedding day, it will all take a toll on you and your beloved – mentally, emotionally and physically. However, many brides-to-be are planning for their wedding night (one of my friends is getting married this week!). 7 hours ago, by Maggie Ryan I found this excellent podcast, and you might want to listen in if you are struggling or have ever wondered about it. – Empty your bladder after (and before, if you can get to it). It’s not enough to tell folks to wait, its important to teach them what to do after the wait. Like the wedding day, the wedding night is something people dream of for years. Most grooms want to wow their brides on the wedding night; many brides want the night to be memorable and intimate and score a 10 out of 10.

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